I experienced this from May 2016 until December 2020.
My mother has dementia.
I live in Florida and my mother lived close by.
My sister who has the power of attorney, medical power of attorney and sole access to my mothers bank account lives in Tx.
From 2016 until 2020 I handled everything because my sister refused to get involved but also refused to give up the POA, etc.
Caring for my mother was very draining on me because her dementia caused her to have outbursts of abuse towards me, I did all her shopping etc and would have to try and get reimbursed for everything I bought, not always successfully.
Despite my attempts to get my sister involved she refused since “I was doing such a good job with Mom”.
In 2018 I was able to get her some social services and there was a lady who came by every week. That was a tremendous help.
What finally forced my sister to get involved was when my mother started going into the middle of the street in front of her house and would stop cars saying she was looking for her 9 year old son. (Me)
I spent so many hours dealing with the police because she went through a phase where she called 911 almost every day.
I tried getting DCF involved but when they would call my sister she would convince them that she was making plans to come and get her.
As I said the street incidents were the last straw and my sister finally came and picked her up and took her to Houston this past January.
If you try and do everything yourself it will wear you out, get as much help as you can.
I failed to mention that I have an older brother who lives in South Florida but he would not answer calls or texts.
God bless you!