Update On Me From My Previous Post

BEAUTIFUL!! great example. thank you so much for praying for me too <3 it seems like part of me will always be attached to past men in some way, and so I really really love having your prayer coverage on that. thank you.

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Thank you for all the replies. I wanted to be very honest because how can I grow in God’s strength and ask for His help if I am not honest, especially with myself? He does not have my phone number nor on any of my social media. He made a fake profile on Fb to contact me by messenger. I did not see the message for two months and wish I had not responded but I did… I believe this is teaching me something because God always does. He has never let me down and always helped me when I asked.
I am taking the advice given here and appreciate your continued prayers and messages of support. I actually cried when I read them.

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aww!! <3 I think you’ve got a good handle on this.

you’ve got it <3 continued prayers for you Jane.

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Well shoot, I was hoping for a chuckle. Not to make ya cry. Unless in joy through laughter, then I could see that. You did the right thing, Jane. You’re on a good path here. Keep at it and I bet you have helped someone who read this update with similar situations with faith and hope, or circumstances. May the Lord shine a joyful beam of heavenly light upon your soul and know, things are going to His plan.

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Thank you Jon, you always know how to say just the right thing! They were sad tears but they also gave me hope.
I decided it was best to come be transparent because how can I get help and prayer if I am not honest to myself and to God? Also as you stated, I know I am not the only person in the world going through this, in fact I think there are many who struggle with temptation of the flesh whether it be sex with another, pornography, etc. Probably one of the biggest temptations out there I imagine. I wish we had a magic button we could hit anytime we have unpure thoughts. I guess we would not need God if we did, right?
I have been doing what you suggested, throwing these thoughts at Jesus feet at the cross and that does help!

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Former, I am so sorry for what your father-in-law is going through and how it affects your family. I have no doubt Satan is working overtime and doubling down because he knows his time is short. No matter what or who we are we all need to get as close to God as possible and keep his cloak or amour over us for safety. I know it is only going to get worse. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words!

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Now I got teary-eyes too! In a good way :joy::relaxed: You should have hope indeed. With God anything is possible and I know the Holy Spirit will guide your words when you speak to your husband.

I say anything is possible because at the beginning of my marriage, I could never have been honest about my ex cyber stalking me. He was extremely jealous of any man, even totally platonic male friends. God healed my husband and reformed his heart and now I can tell him about those things and he doesn’t get angry. So, we might want to pray that your husband receives the information with an open heart and nothing but love for you.

I wish you could offer you a cyber box of tissue. :wink:

God bless you!

Maybe I missed something, but I only saw that you didn’t want to “upset” your husband. How about hurting him. How about loving him. Try giving your husband more attention, affection, think of ways to enrich his life, instead of yours. Maybe get a piece of paper and start listing your husband’s good qualities. List the reasons you married him. Make a conscious effort to repeatedly read about The Virtuous Woman, Proverbs 31:10. Stop blaming “satan” and start taking responsibility, take your thoughts captive. Peace comes with asking the Lord to search your heart, and honesty. I wish you the best.

Don’t give up @Janedoe !!! If it’s an encouragement to you, even as a Christian of many many years I still have times I struggle to “take every thought captive” but its so worth the fight. For me, not with ex whoevers because I have none and happily married for 20 years, but my struggle is financial. We have a small, old house needing LOTS of TLC it rarely if ever gets, old cars with the same dilemma and one of our kids has cerebral palsy so therapies, Dr. visits, accessibility equipment, etc. continually use up any extra $ or time.

I generally try to be content with what I have but satan still uses two weak spots to get at me once in a while–a sibling who has a smaller family yet larger home on a lake AND a vacation home in the mountains AND $ to renovate both, and a missionary family we support that has a nice house, is sending two kids through college and just bought a fairly new used car that is about 9 years newer than ours.

When I read about their car the other day my first thought was not “praise God for meeting their needs!” but “why are we sending them $ if they are better off than we are?” Which was immediately followed by “geez, what an ugly thought, what kind of person AM I?!”

I had to quickly take it to God, ask Him to free me of that thought and remind myself of what He showed me a while ago when I was frustrated and questioning Him over it. He followed up something like this…

GOD: “Hey don’t you remember that prayer from the early days?..I’m still answering that one in case you hadn’t noticed.”

ME: “What?..Oooh, that one…‘give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, ‘Who is the Lord?’ Or I may become poor and steal, and so dishonor the name of my God.’ Ouch…Thanks!..again.”

GOD: :heart::blush:

About 17 years ago my husband and I did a short term mission trip in Thailand helping another missionary family we support. On that trip, God impressed Proverbs 30:7-9 on our hearts and we began praying that over our marriage because we did not want to disown or dishonor Him. That forced reliance on Him is probably a big part of why we now have ‘eyes to see and ears to hear’ the truth of what is really going on in the world today.

All that to say, keep pressing on. Satan will keep trying to attack, but we choose how we respond and it gets easier the more we choose to rely on God’s strength.

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:rofl::rofl::rofl: love your sense of humor jon, much appreciated!!! Though I think I might switch the tune to ‘Baby shark’…

God is good
doo doo doo doo doo doo
God is good
doo doo doo doo doo doo
God is good
doo doo doo doo doo doo
GOD IS GOOD!!!

Jesus saves
doo doo doo doo doo doo
Jesus saves
doo doo doo doo doo doo
Jesus saves
doo doo doo doo doo doo
JESUS SAVES!!!

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Whatever gets ya dancing with the Holy Spirit lol.

Jane, I cannot add much to what others have said here but know that God loves you and all of us despite our transgressions and weaknesses. All of us sin, every single one of us. Jesus said in John 8:7 He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. Never feel like you are alone and do not let Satan feed your thoughts with his lies that you will never be forgiven or that you are not good enough. None of us are! It is by His mercy and Grace that any of us will go to Heaven. God knows your heart and if you continue to go to Him and lay your burdens at His feet, He will deliver you from your negative thoughts and actions.
Ask God to bring you closer to your husband. He will answer your prayers. He is mightier than the devil!
God Bless You.

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If I was the OP after reading this it would be my last time to post. You are shaming her and sound judgmental when she courageously was honest. I give her credit for doing so.

Thank you Raining. I assume you are talking about the post from ready2fly. I realize some will not “approve” of my past and judge me. I was afraid to post but figured if anyone would pray for me and give me hope, fellow Christians would.
I appreciate you sticking up for me. Luckily others chimed in to give me good advice so I am taking their advice and focusing on how to fight off the negative thoughts. I never claimed I have no responsibility for my thoughts or actions but admitted they can consume me. Ready2fly may not understand what that is like. I love my husband dearly and appreciate him. I do as much as I can to make him happy. Im not sure where this person got the idea I dont. I like Jon’s advice and am using that. You are correct though, I will not put a post up again. I feel bad enough as it is, I dont need to be kicked when I am asking for prayers and advice.

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It may not get me dancing but it might make the demons flee faster! :rofl: SO glad my kids were too old for that show.

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I wasn’t “shaming” her. On the other hand, there are things we should feel ashamed for. That word has been deleted from society, and we are all suffering for it. For instance, shouldn’t the rioters burning down Portland feel ashamed?
Back to your comment; 2 Thess 3:1413 As for you, brothers, do not grow weary in doing good. 14 If anyone does not obey what we say in this letter, take note of that person, and have nothing to do with him, that he may be ashamed. 15 Do not regard him as an enemy, but warn him as a brother.

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God is our judge. We are to warn gently, not with shaming. And yes, that is indeed what’s happening. I flagged your comment. There are forum rules here on proper conduct for a reason.

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@Janedoe Raining grace was replying to another post, not yours. I don’t think she was referring to YOU not posting again, please don’t leave!

As Hebrews 10:23-25 tells us,

Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

Closing this thread, there was no need for things to devolve into bickering.

Strive to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against such things.” (Galatians 5:22-23a)

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